Can you choose your attitude? Some people will say yes! However, is it a learned behaviour or simply in us? I really don’t know the answer I wish I did!, What I do know is that it is our attitude that can let us down on the road.
One school of thought is that most drivers are not being involved in incidents because of their lack of technical skills behind the wheel; it is not even their lack of knowledge of the rules of the road. It is their attitude and behaviour behind the wheel that lets them down, time after time. Simply put, it is our attitude that drives our behaviour.
Our behaviour can actually change due to what we think the social norms are, people will often say “well everyone else does it, I don’t want to be the odd one out”. We simply want to fit in.
So what changes when we get in the car? Why does a lovely person who would hold the door open for you change behind the wheel? The very same person, who would forgive someone for making a genuine mistake. Yet on the road they would beep, use unsavoury hand signals, shout and swear at a person for simply making a genuine error.
Let’s face it we all make mistakes every day and we hope people will forgive us for them. Remember, when a driver makes a mistake near you don’t take it personal, it could have been the only mistake they have made all week! Now I know what you are thinking, “Well someone else’s mistake could cause damage to my car, injury or even death”.
Getting angry because of someone else’s mistake could be seen as just instinctive. But, allowing that anger to become counterproductive will only make matters worse, so yes be angry but control your anger, remember emotion plays a massive part in our ability to make rational decisions. You could end up making the wrong decision and end up being the person who does cause someone else to be hurt.
The good news is that there is way to keep you out of the reach of someone else’s mistake because there is not a driver out there who is so good they cannot be outwitted by someone else’s mistake!
Simply put keep plenty of space around your car, this will give you time to react or come up with plan B, to accommodate someone else’s mistake.